I’ve been told by my parents a lot of times already “choose your friends!” “Don’t hang out with that boy, he’s a bad influence!” “Don’t get a girlfriend!” and I’m sure all these comes down to one thing, you are what your friends are.
Alright first thing, I don’t really have a lot of friends, which I’m happy about because I got to develop my own independent style, not like others who follow the streams of what’s on and what’s accepted in their small circle of friends. But I’ve seen many circumstances where people change to what others think about them. Which again comes to my point, you are what your friends are.
I have a friend who is a great example of this short phrase, I’m not naming him though because if I did, things may happen.
Alright, to give a clear “image” let’s name him Jhon Doe. A name used for people who are basically unknown, commonly used by investigators who can’t figure out the victim or the suspect ( at least that’s what I know )
Okay, Jhon Doe has his friends, he’s been a friend of mine and I could I say, I know who he is, wait, let me rephrase that – who he WAS.
The frequency of our hang outs lessened by the days and was completely obliterated when I left for Philippines. His friends I knew, for they were my friends too, more like acquaintances, and were all Facebook popular so I at least knew the basics about them.
A few months after I came back, I kept my profile low and notified only the closest, of my arrival. I met up with Jhon Doe and I could say, damn, what has happened?
He’s become like his friends. He adapted to their vanity, indulgence in cockiness, and a wee bit overconfident, but I could see he was holding back. I do hope he realizes that. Oh yah, if ever you read this and you’re my friend and a male, don’t suspect you are “Jhon Doe” but let’s say you were, don’t worry – we’re cool!
So that’s an example and a big one. And it really is evident that you are what your friends are, and they too are what their friends are and if you are a friend of them? It’s best if you keep a good image of yourself. Not only do you keep yourself clean but also those around you.
I’ve caught myself sometimes too before, trying to “fit” in, but that was long long back. I’ve come to the conclusion that it would be healthier for the world to fit into me rather than my own self taking it on. It’s a big world we live on, containing a huge populace of 7 billion +, and there’s no point of being someone else – that’s cheap.
So I’m trying to say, though you could be what your friends are, you will always have control over how much they influence you or in simpler words their amount of control over you. Give yourself some slack and set yourself free, free from the imaginary manacles of society and be YOU.
Though I’ve already made a point I’d also want to mention the things my parents said. Well…. I didn’t listen to most of them, yah yah, I’m a bad kid but it wasn’t because of rebellion or hate – I don’t hate my parents – it was about the curiosity. I sometimes rue the times where my curiosity would just kill me and take over but that’s what happened. And from the things I’ve seen and done because of this thing you called “curiosity” I could say you definitely are what your friends are, gladly I saved myself earlier enough from the sad phenomena.
One last thing, since it’s an avoidable biological, social effect – I’d like to say, CHOOSE your friends wisely. If you are wanting to be smart, hang out with smart people. Wanting to be better at a sport or anything else? Be with the kind of people who do well in those. And you’ll be fine. I can’t wait to make friends though, I still am in need of companions.
Oh yah, listen to your parents! ( In case you’re like me, still in the juvenile stages of life! It would work best if you do so. ) and Thanks for reading guys!
[A question] What do you really think about this? Are you truly what your friends are? Comment below and share your thoughts! 😀